Shelia’s Story

My mother, Sheila, was originally from Gawleys Gate, a small rural village not far from Lurgan. Our family is a close-knit one — consisting of my mum Sheila, my dad Joe, myself (Danielle), my brother Matthew, my husband Conor, and her beloved twin grandsons, Caelán and Finnbarr. We always cherished spending time together, whether it was for weekends, holidays, or special occasions.

Mum loved life, she was a very witty, funny person always having a ‘one liner’ roll off her tongue making us all laugh. She was extremely kind and would always have the kettle on as soon as anyone walked through the door. Her garden was her pride and joy, she was an avid gardener, it was always so beautiful, passers-by would often stop just to have a look at her wonderful floral displays. Gardening brought her so much joy. She also loved to travel; mum and I took many holidays together just the two of us and made lifelong memories that I will cherish forever.

In March 2022, Mum was diagnosed with cancer. Unfortunately, chemotherapy and radiotherapy were unsuccessful, and immunotherapy became the only remaining option. Despite the challenges, Mum remained remarkably positive. She never once complained, nor did she lose her sense of humour or resilience. Her strength was inspirational. Eventually, Mum was able to return home, and we were grateful to share meaningful time with her. Caring for her was an honour, and even in her most difficult days, she remained a lady in every sense — full of grace, with her trademark smile and quick wit still shining through.

Unfortunately, mums condition continued to deteriorate and with the complexity of her illness her needs could no longer be managed with such little help or support at home, so our GP suggested Hospice care. It was a decision we didn’t take lightly, but looking back, it was one of the best decisions we could have made for her

Mum was admitted to Evora Hospice (formerly Southern Area Hospice) as an inpatient on 1st November 2023. From the moment we arrived, we were welcomed with warmth and compassion by every member of staff. Despite the uncertainty and anxiety we were feeling, there was an immediate sense of comfort and professionalism that reassured us. Mum’s pain was quickly managed, and she was made as comfortable as possible, something for which we are endlessly grateful.

The care provided at Evora Hospice was exceptional. The doctors and consultants kept us fully informed and involved in every step of Mum’s care. Their knowledge, compassion, and communication made us feel supported and respected. The nursing and medical staff were outstanding. They quickly learned all of our names, and that personal connection brought such comfort during difficult days. Nothing was ever too much trouble. Their attention to detail and the dignity they showed our mother went far beyond expectations.

The reception team welcomed us warmly each day, always checking in to see if we needed anything. Auxiliary staff ensured Mum was cared for with respect and tenderness. They also thoughtfully brought tea and biscuits for our family during visits — a simple gesture, but one that made a world of difference. The housekeeping team maintained a pristine environment and never passed by without offering a smile or a friendly chat.

Mum also received complementary therapy during her stay, including reflexology, which helped her relax and feel at ease. I was even offered treatments myself, which were incredibly therapeutic during a very emotional time. This holistic approach — caring not just for the patient, but for the entire family — is what makes Evora Hospice so unique and special.

The chaplaincy team offered tremendous support. I would like to extend a heartfelt thank you to Sister Fiona Galligan, whose compassion and presence guided us through some of the most challenging moments. She is a truly remarkable person, and we will never forget the peace and comfort she brought to our family.

There are many other staff members behind the scenes, it would be impossible to mention everyone but each one plays a vital part in the smooth running of the Hospice making the experience for patients and their families one we will never forget.

We celebrated her final Christmas there, and the staff went out of their way to make it special. They encouraged us to bring decorations from home, moved her to a larger room, and adorned the space with fairy lights, all thoughtful touches that meant so much to us.

We as a family will always be the biggest advocates for this Hospice, our mother passed away with dignity and in no pain, surrounded by family and the most wonderful Hospice staff. At a time of such sadness and hopelessness the Hospice offers a place of solace. It is a home from home, always a friendly face, a listening ear or a shoulder for support from all the staff.

The hospice will always hold such a special place in our hearts. It was the worst time in our lives losing someone we loved so dearly but it was made more bearable with the care our mother received every step of the way in the Hospice.

It’s very hard to put into words just how special this place is, When people ask me about Southern Area Hospice (now Evora) I always say “If angels walk among us, they are all working at Newry Hospice, as each and every one of them are angels on earth” I believe its more than a job to them, they treated our mother as if she was one of their own family and this same care is given to every patient and their families who pass through those doors.

We as a family held a very successful country music funidraising night in aid of the Hospice to give something back and to say thank you, we were happy to donate to such a worthy cause.

Mum is missed beyond words, every occasion that passes that she is not with us is hard, but we speak about her often and believe it is an important part of keeping her memory alive.